Friday, September 30, 2011
An Explanation
I apologize if my last post seemed harsh and although I don't feel the need to justify spanking to our readers, I felt an explanation would be nice (especially if my anonymous commenter is a friend or family member). I am not asking for anyone's approval and I'm certainly not saying that everyone should spank or that every child needs to be spanked. We have made the decision that if the punishment fits the crime and a good old fashioned swat on the butt is needed, then we will do it. Dane is an extremely strong willed child and we are seeing things improving with his listening and bullying, but I definitely think it's because we have spanked when necessary. It is not our first line of discipline and it doesn't happen very often, however it does happen sometimes and I stand by our decision to use that type of discipline when necessary. We don't beat him for goodness sake. We love our children dearly and want them to be well behaved, well mannered kiddos. Sometimes timeouts or scolding do nothing and we have to take the next step. Thanks for continuing to listen to my ramblings...several of you have asked what happened or what the comment was so I felt the need to explain my feelings on the topic. I am not asking for you to agree with every step we take as parents, but I am not judging you on the decisions you make for your family and I would hope the same respect is given to us. Thank you for all of you who have followed our blog and for all of the awesome support you've given us...from our struggle to conceive to becoming parents for the first time. We will undoubtedly make mistakes and we greatly appreciate advice if it's given in the correct manner but the comment we received that has been the basis for the last 2 posts was offensive and rude and I felt the need to say something about it.
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4 comments:
Jen I support you 100 percent on the spanking, and wish more parents did it. There is a difference between spanking and child abuse. In the long run they will respect you for it some day. Like you time outs are good for somethings, but not all things. Hang in there it will get better, but maybe not soon enough for you. they sure are cute, and I think they are all boys. Good Luck, and realy enjoy reading your blog
Jen~
I didn't see that comment, but unfortunately, there are people out there who believe spanking is one of the worst things...I do it to my children and I was also spanked. I would never even think that my parents were out of line...I needed it!! haha :) Anyway, keep doing what you are doing...you are raising your children, not them!! By the way, I'm not sure if your blog is private...I accessed it from Christy's blog and then I typed in your address in google and it brought it up...so you might want to double-check that...
~Amber
Thank you ladies for your awesome feedback! I continue to stand by our decision to spank. Amber...i deleted the comment so you won't be able to see it. The commenter is obviously a parasite! :) Our blog isn't private but you have to have the exact blog address to get to it, you're not supposed to be able to google search any of our names and find it. I don't want to set it to private because then you would have to sign in to read it and I just don't want anyone to have to do that! I appreciate both of your comments...thank you!
Jen, I've seen you with Dane - you aren't really "spanking" him as some would expect - you're doing as my father did, and as I did, you're "tuning in his hearing" you're getting his attention and making him listen to you. Dane's a GREAT BOY - and you're a TOTALLY loving mother! Boys challenge their mothers. Sometimes little ones need re-directing of their focus ... when the timeout or the corner doesn't work ... Maybe you shouldn't call it spanking, you could call it a "forced re-direct of his attention"! (right, like he'd be afraid of that!)
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